As I mentioned before in Facebook,
Santosh, who is a professional Soccer Player in Nepal, will going to challenge the Japanese soccer league
Honestly, I think it is very difficult.
But! there is a big difference,
when you say "it is not likely to happen"
and when you say "will make it happen no matter what!!"
what is different is what comes afterward
the learning, the satisfaction,
and most importantly,
the degree of accepting the outcome!
Since the Nepalese soccer league have been recessed for a long time,
Santosh's body was already far away from an athlete's body.
While I took him around to many places for playing soccer,
I heard many sever opinions about him, which I could not tell him directly...
But unless he can face the reality,
there is no transformation.
So I recorded his performance in my mobile phone to show him how he is playing
And little by little,
I told him about the honest opinions I heard from other players and coaches,
As well as how we, my family, feel about his current situation.
Unless we have built a trust relationship in between us,
It is very difficult to tell something negative, something hard to accept,
Because it is difficult to make him accept it in a positive way.
But on the other hand, because it is something hard to accept,
If he can accept it, then it can be a great stepping stone for him to make a great progress!!
Yesterday, suddently, Santosh told me
"Now I really know what effort is"
"The effort I was making before, was not a real effort.
Ofcourse I was making the best that I thought I could, but it was not the best.
In these days in Japan, I truly made the real effort,
And now I know"
He looked at his body with happy expression
and he said, regarding his transformation,
"I am proud"
The impression I got from hearing these words from him,
Was not just "being proud"
But I could also sense the confidence and satisfaction in himself
The confidence that he is making true effort
And the satisfaction in seeing the result with his own eyes.
In the things you put your effort into
will create confidence for yourself.
I think a true confidence is something that can only be made
By making effort.
I have some photo that can show you much more dramatic,
But it would be too personal...
So, this is a photo of Santosh in the Summer
When he came back in September, he was in the same shape
His current body
For a while, when he came back for the second time,
We, my family, didnt force him as much
But as gradually, as we created our trust relationship, a bond between us,
Then one time, through argument, I became absolutely candor to him
And I claimed that I will make him much thinner!
Then only 2 days afterward,
An oppurtunity for Santosh to apply for trial test J3 (3rd division league) came to us.
An oppurtunity for Santosh to apply for J3 (3rd division league) came to us.
So we had to change it from making him thinner, to making him athletic
I completely managed his eating habit
Designed his training schedule that will make most effective training for his body
My brother, my husband and I
Have gathered all of our knowledge, experience and memories
And applied the up to date information
And ofcourse, Santosh is making the most effort
But I think effort is something difficult to make only by yourself.
Not only in Sports, but also in job
There are people who supports you
People who make the same effort with you
When there are people cheering for you without being aware
Or giving you words and advices
And making you motivated!
When everything becomes together
Can become somthing beyond our imagination!
Almost every often, I am driving Santosh to Tokyo for an oppurtunity to practice soccer
( It takes 3 hours by car )
Seeing these beautiful scenery on our way
My children is also cooperating to endure beng away with their mother
And for the project of FC Reale
This is also a different kind of effort that they are making
And I think effort will nurture everyone's soul
To build a confidence in ourselves
And to make our life filled with fulfillment!
We drove to Tokyo again for morning practice
People who knows the true effort
I dont think true effort is about enduring the pain and suffering
It is more about how much you can make your dream in a realistic way
How much you can be true to your goal
To be true to yourself
To be true to your people
To be true to your actions
That is how I think is what true effort is
Again and again,
For supporting us and cheering us,
Thank you very much ! ! ! ! !